How 90 Days Can Transform Your Co-Parenting and Your Future

Posted by Erin Birt | Mar 18, 2025 | 0 Comments

The Shortcut to Wisdom: How 90 Days Can Transform Your Co-Parenting and Your Future

Many parents facing separation feel trapped—stuck in conflict, uncertainty, and fear of the unknown. They know they don't want to spend years battling in court, draining their energy, finances, and emotional well-being. Yet, without a clear path forward, they fall into patterns that keep them locked in the past.

But what if there were a way to break free from that cycle in just 90 days?

What if, instead of reliving old struggles, you could retrain your mindset, reshape your co-parenting dynamic, and build a future that actually works for you and your children—all in less time than it took for me to gain 20 years of experience in family law?

This is the heart of what I offer. I am not here to tell you how to live your life or to force you into a rigid co-parenting model. Instead, I provide you with a shortcut—a proven framework that allows you to gain the insights and strategies it took me two decades to master in a matter of months.

Why the Past Predicts Your Future (And How to Change It)

The biggest mistake parents make when separating is believing that the future will magically improve while their mindset and patterns stay the same. But the truth is, if your thoughts, reactions, and decision-making processes don't change, your co-parenting future will be a direct reflection of the past—the same struggles, just in a different setting.

This is why the court system often fails families—it forces parents to remain trapped in past hardships, dragging conflicts out for 12 months or longer. You cannot create a clear vision of a happy, stable future while simultaneously keeping your energy locked in old battles.

The solution? Change your focus and invest your time in actively shaping your future.

The 90-Day Transformation: Thinking and Acting Your Way to a Better Future

What if, for the next 90 days, you stopped pouring your energy into frustration, blame, and conflict—and instead focused on creating a new co-parenting reality?

Imagine if all of your spare time was dedicated to:

  • Identifying past negative patterns and replacing them with healthier approaches
  • Organizing your thoughts for a stable, productive co-parenting future
  • Practicing daily affirmations and mindset shifts to reinforce positive habits
  • Refining communication strategies that remove stress and improve interactions
  • Hastening the removal of conflict instead of feeding it with attention and energy

This is not about ignoring your challenges. It's about facing them head-on with the right tools, so you can stop wasting time on resentment and start building a stronger future for yourself and your children—right now.

Why Your Children Need You to Shift Your Focus

All parents want the best for their children. They make sacrifices, invest in education, and put their children's needs first. But what if the most impactful thing you could do for your child isn't another material investment—but an emotional one?

Children learn how to navigate relationships by watching their parents. If they see you locked in co-parenting battles, they internalize conflict as normal. If they see you actively choosing resolution, positive communication, and forward-thinking strategies, they learn how to interact at the highest level with others in their own future.

So ask yourself:

  • Why give so much energy to the troubles of the past when you could be living your best parenting life now?
  • Why waste time in a system that keeps you tied to problems when you could accelerate personal growth, wealth-building, and stability for your family?

How Restorative Divorce™ Can Help You Get There Faster

Through our signature Restorative Divorce™ workbook and framework, you don't have to figure this out alone. We provide you with:

A step-by-step process to break free from past patterns
✅ Daily affirmations and mindset exercises to shift your thinking and habits
✅ Practical tools to improve communication and decision-making
✅ Strategies to reduce stress, conflict, and financial depletion
✅ A structured roadmap that allows you to hasten resolution rather than delay it

The Choice is Yours: Stay Stuck or Move Forward

You don't have to spend years in court or waste thousands of dollars on endless conflict to learn what works. You can take 20 years of wisdom and apply it in just 90 days, giving yourself and your children the gift of a better, more peaceful future—now.

The shortcut is here. The path is clear.

Are you ready to move forward and create a future you actually want to live? Ready to transform your co-parenting journey? Contact us to discuss how our 90-day Restorative Divorce™ program can work for you.

➡️ Reach out to start your journey.

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  • In a challenging divorce, Attorney Erin Birt resolved parenting conflicts for the best interests of a teen daughter. Mother Sarah was concerned about father John's disinterest, while John felt Sarah was controlling. Erin, serving as GAL (Guardian ad Litem), utilized mediation skills and investigation protocols to prioritize the teen's well-being, prevent litigation, and repair co-parenting harmony. Read On

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About the Author

Erin Birt

Since 2003, Erin N. Birt, J.D., CADC has focused her practice on parenting time, divorce, mediation, and substance abuse issues. Ms. Birt's unique background in both family law and addictions counseling help her clients successfully navigate the complex issues of coparenting and divorce. Ms. Birt also devotes her time to presenting at continuing education seminars for attorneys, mediators, and counselors.

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