A Grounded, Reflective Guide to Navigating Divorce with Clarity and Strength
Divorce is not just a legal event; it's a personal transformation. That's why we created the 90-Day Restorative Divorce® Workbook: a week-by-week guide that helps you stay grounded, reflect on what matters most, and move forward with clarity and confidence.
This paperback divorce workbook isn't a checklist or a court-prep manual. This is a practical planning tool. It's a space to think, plan, and feel your way through change whether you're preparing for divorce, rebuilding during the process, or growing after it's over.
The 90-Day Restorative Divorce® Workbook is available to be purchased independently and it is provided to all clients of the firm.
Quick Links
- - Who Is It For?
- - What's Inside
- - Weekly Emails
- - Why 90 Days
- - Client Feedback
- - Order Your Copy
- - FAQ
Who Is This Workbook For?
- - Individuals starting the Restorative Divorce® Pathway
- - Parents working through emotional or high-conflict co-parenting
- - Spouses preparing for a Kitchen Table Divorce (with or without attorneys)
- - Anyone wanting to grow from divorce, not just survive it
- - Clients currently in mediation, flat-fee divorce services, or collaborative law
- - Individuals post-divorce seeking closure, insight, or emotional reset
What's Inside
- - 12 Weekly Themes to explore the emotional, practical, and relational impact of divorce
- - Journal prompts and goal-setting space to foster clarity and resilience
- - Reflection tools for navigating communication, parenting, identity, and next steps
- - A calming, non-legal tone — ideal for solo use or as a companion to our Restorative services
- - Paired Resources: Compatible with our Kitchen Table Divorce eBook, co-parenting tools, and Rudy & Ali children's book series
Each week is designed to give you breathing room, not pressure. This is your journey at your pace.
How to Access the Workbook
✔ Included Free for Birt Family Law Clients
If you are actively working with us on mediation, planning, or limited-scope support, you'll receive the workbook as part of your onboarding.
✔ Available for Purchase
Buy on Amazon
Available in U.S. and internationally, where offered
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Kindle version when available
This workbook is great bundled with The Kitchen Table Divorce® Book on Amazon. It's a powerful tool even if you're already divorced.
As parents begin applying what they are learning, they might also be interested in the Co-Parent Decision Toolkit™ which offers practical tools for navigating real-time conversations about decisions involving children.
Weekly Email Guidance
When you begin the 90-Day Workbook as a client of our firm, you will receive our weekly email series, and independent workbook purchasers may contact our office to opt in for an additional fee, designed to:
- - Keep you on track
- - Offer gentle reminders and added insights
- - Reinforce the week's theme with encouragement or reflection tips
Whether you're using it solo or in tandem with our services, you're never alone in this process.
Why a Workbook? Why 90 Days?
Legal timelines don't always match emotional timelines. The 90-Day Workbook gives you space to slow down, look inward, and set a meaningful course — before, during, or after your divorce.
It's ideal for anyone who wants:
- - A structured but non-rigid guide
- - A neutral tone, not court language, not therapy-heavy
- - To keep children at the center, without putting them in the middle
- - To feel supported in private reflection, with optional follow-up from our team
Want to Restart the Process?
Already divorced but feeling stuck or overwhelmed by co-parenting? You can begin again. The workbook is equally useful for:
- - Post-divorce healing
- - Realigning during long-term parenting
- - Working through grief, anger, or uncertainty that didn't resolve in court
This is your space to reset.
Client Feedback
~ I wasn't ready to talk to anyone, but this helped me feel seen.
~ We used it alongside the Kitchen Table Divorce eBook and made real progress each week.
~ The weekly pace kept me from spiraling. It made things manageable.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the 90-Day Restorative Divorce® Workbook?
The 90-Day Restorative Divorce® Workbook is a guided reflection and decision-making tool designed to help individuals navigate divorce with greater clarity, confidence, and intention. Through a structured 12-week process, it helps readers organize their thoughts, prepare for important decisions, identify patterns, and reduce reactive decision-making. It can be used independently or alongside mediation, legal services, or other professional support.
Is this workbook a legal guide?
No. This workbook is not a legal manual or a substitute for legal advice. It is designed to support your thinking, reflection, and decision-making so you can approach the legal process with greater clarity and confidence.
Can I use this workbook without working with an attorney or mediator?
Yes. Many individuals use this workbook independently to prepare for next steps, organize their thoughts, or work through the emotional and practical aspects of divorce.
At the same time, many find that once they gain clarity, they are better prepared to use mediation or other professional support effectively.
What makes this different from therapy or counseling?
This workbook is not therapy. It is structured reflection.
It helps you:
• organize your thoughts
• identify patterns
• prepare for conversations and decisions
You are always welcome to use it alongside therapy, but it is designed to stand on its own as a practical, grounded guide.
What if I feel overwhelmed or fall behind?
That is completely normal.
This is not a program you can “fail.” The 12-week structure is there to provide guidance, not pressure. You can move at your own pace, revisit sections, or pause when needed.
Is this only for people in the middle of a divorce?
No.
This workbook is useful:
• before a divorce, when you are preparing
• during the process, when decisions are being made
• after divorce, when you are adjusting or co-parenting
Many people return to it more than once.
Will this help with co-parenting?
Yes. Several sections are designed to help you reflect on communication, boundaries, and decision-making involving children.
It will not give you a parenting plan, but it will help you approach parenting decisions more thoughtfully and with less reactivity.
How do the weekly emails work?
If you are working with our office, you will receive weekly emails that align with each section of the workbook.
If you purchased the workbook independently, you may contact our office to opt in.
These emails are designed to:
• keep you engaged
• reinforce each week's theme
• provide additional perspective and guidance
What if I need more support while using the workbook?
If you find that you would benefit from additional guidance, you are welcome to reach out.
Some individuals choose to:
• schedule a planning session
• transition into mediation
• use limited-scope support
The workbook is often a helpful first step in that process.
Is this workbook appropriate for high-conflict situations?
Yes, with awareness.
The workbook can help you stay grounded and intentional even in difficult dynamics. However, it is not a substitute for professional guidance in situations involving safety concerns, significant imbalance, or ongoing conflict escalation.
How is this connected to Restorative Divorce®?
This workbook is one part of the broader Restorative Divorce® Pathway.
It reflects the same principles:
• clarity over reactivity
• thoughtful decision-making
• keeping children at the center
• reducing unnecessary conflict
It can be used on its own or as a companion to our services.
Ready to Begin?
You don't need all the answers — just a starting point.
Buy on Amazon
Available in U.S. and internationally, where offered
Fast fulfillment through Amazon
Kindle version when available
Learn more about how this fits into our full Restorative Divorce® Pathway, here.
