What Did I Learn from my Divorce?

Recently, our attorney, Erin Birt, met with group of individuals that experienced divorce, have been effected by divorce, or work with divorcing couples, and discussed their lessons learned after experiencing a divorce. Their stories and lessons are valuable to anyone considering a divorce or separation: 

• Secrets really take away our freedom. It does no one any good and no one cares about your secret by you - Peg
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• Can handle a lot more emotions than you think you can and scariest thing brings you the most blessings and increases your confidence - Carrie
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• Whenever my co parent reaches out, I learned to take time to process what is being asked/told to respond fact based and not emotionally - Lori
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• As child of divorce - it is important for children of divorce to maintain relationships with both parents - Rebecca
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• Wish I knew what to fight for - not all things are necessary to fight for (like being able to control the other parties tobacco use proved extremely expensive).  Be realistic and pick your battles - Tina
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• It is a legal process where you have to advocate for self and find what is important. Important to gather support - Kathleen
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• Can live happily on the least and don't wallow in petty. Wished I had a Divorce Coach - Kristen
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• Divorce is a process that doesn't end with the divorce when you have kids. Need an ongoing team and planning is needed - Tamara
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• Take care of your health so divorce is not detrimental to your health - Mary
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• Children are perceptive and intelligent and how a parent handles their divorce effects both the young and adult children. We have the ability as divorce professionals to positively change the future of children of divorce. - Erin

Additional Divorce Lessons Learned 

• Divorce takes a team approach
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• Be your own hero and your own advocate in your divorce
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• Ask questions even when you don't know what to ask
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• Pause and hold emotions in when heated, breathing work helps a lot
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• Amicable divorce turned high conflict once custody and coparenting issues came up. Learned to separate emotions, have support system, and think "what data do I have to make responses fact based and not emotion based?"
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• I learned to take care of myself and not depend on others, however, I accepted help from my support system.
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• Music is powerful
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• Stories are powerful
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• You are your own hero

Contact Birt Law for Divorce Support

At The Law Firm of Erin N Birt PC (Birt Law) we are here to help anyone facing divorce or separation. We provide divorce coaching to help navigate the process, mediation, parenting coordination, parenting schedule drafting, collaborative divorce services, and unbundled divorce services to provide access to justice and support for any person facing the difficult circumstances of divorce or separation. We can help you today.