Can you Turn your Break-Up Into a Positive Experience?

Posted by Erin Birt | Sep 12, 2018 | 0 Comments

If you're playing sad love songs on repeat, eating pints of ice cream in one sitting, and sobbing on your bedroom floor, it sounds like you may have recently gone through a break-up.

As Peter Gamlen stated in this article, you do not have to remain down, you can turn your most recent split into a positive experience.

One shouldn't focus on the negative aspects of the relationship, instead reflect on all of the good things that came out of it and what you learned about yourself through that experience.

According to Gamlen, doing some soul searching and giving yourself time to grieve is not a sign of weakness. Instead, it is an essential step towards accepting change.

The “what if's” won't help speed up the process of getting over a breakup, but devising a plan to better yourself will. If you are prepared, you can handle the difficult moments ahead.

Plan what your response will be to friends and family that question “What happened?” Make the answers short and sweet, but most of all positive.

Remember there were good times at one point, and now you can move forward learning from the past and making you the best you can be going forward.

If your break up involves children, please contact us at your earliest to discuss developing a parenting plan that protects your family and children.

About the Author

Erin Birt

Since 2003, Erin N. Birt, J.D., CADC has focused her practice on parenting time, divorce, mediation, and substance abuse issues. Ms. Birt's unique background in both family law and addictions counseling help her clients successfully navigate the complex issues of coparenting and divorce. Ms. Birt also devotes her time to presenting at continuing education seminars for attorneys, mediators, and counselors.


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