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A Father Seeking Unity Across Two Homes

March 2025

He never expected to find himself here—navigating divorce for a second time, now with three children in two different households. He had already experienced the pain of separation once before. And now, as his current marriage unraveled, what weighed on him most wasn't anger or blame—it was fear.

How could he afford two households without sacrificing his stability?
How could he protect his relationship with each child, when the two mothers could barely speak to one another?
How could he make sure his children—siblings—weren't being turned against each other by adult tension?

His biggest fear wasn't financial—it was emotional. He worried his kids would grow up feeling divided, confused, or worse—alienated from one another. What he wanted most was simple, but not easy: peace. Security. And the ability to tell all of his children, “We are still a family.”

He came to us carrying that weight.

Rather than defaulting to conflict or hoping the system would sort it out, we helped him build a path grounded in reality. We negotiated carefully—preserving resources, building parenting time schedules that honored his need to see his children together, and creating boundaries to reduce stress between households.

It wasn't about choosing sides. It was about choosing stability.

By the time the process ended, he didn't just have a court-approved parenting plan—he had a renewed sense of direction. He could speak to his children with honesty and peace. He could manage both households without feeling pulled apart. And he could rest knowing he chose a path that brought order, compassion, and continuity to a very complicated situation.

Practice area(s): Divorce / Separation

Court: Cook County

Erin Birt

Erin Birt

Since 2003, Erin N. Birt, J.D., CADC has focused her practice on parenting time, divorce, mediation, and substance abuse issues. Ms. Birt's unique background in both family law and addictions counseling help her clients successfully navigate the complex issues of coparenting and divorce. Ms. Birt also devotes her time to presenting at continuing education seminars for attorneys, mediators, and counselors.

Protecting Your Children’s Future Starts Here

With 20+ years of courtroom and Guardian ad Litem experience, I understand how court decisions are made, what judges consider, and where the process often breaks down for families. My work focuses on helping parents avoid unnecessary court conflict whenever possible to minimize harm to children.

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We work with parents in two ways:

Individually, when one parent is seeking answers and legal guidance.
Together, when both parents are ready to resolve matters through mediation.

Both options are structured so you’re not waiting on the court system for next steps.

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Birt Family Law is committed to keeping the separating family out of court and working together towards a positive resolution.

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