Navigating the Holidays: A Divorce Attorney's Guide to Co-Parenting Through December

Posted by Erin Birt | Nov 27, 2023 | 0 Comments

Navigating the Holidays: A Divorce Attorney's Guide to Co-Parenting Through December

As the holiday season approaches, co-parents find themselves faced with the challenge of creating a harmonious and joyous experience for their children despite the complexities of divorce. December, with its festivities, brings unique considerations for co-parenting arrangements. As a divorce attorney, my aim is to offer valuable insights and tips on structuring a co-parenting schedule for the December holidays, both with and without the presence of children.

Setting the Stage for Successful Co-Parenting

Open Communication:

Begin by fostering open and honest communication with your co-parent. Establishing a cooperative relationship sets the foundation for successful co-parenting during the holidays. Share your expectations and be receptive to your co-parent's concerns and preferences.

Create a Co-Parenting Plan:

A well-detailed co-parenting plan is crucial during the holiday season. Outline the schedule for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, including drop-off and pick-up times. This plan should be clear and comprehensive, addressing the needs and preferences of both parents and, most importantly, the children.

Co-Parenting with Children on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day

Alternate Traditions:

Consider alternating Christmas Eve and Christmas Day each year. This allows both parents to participate in special holiday traditions with their children. For example, one parent can have the children on Christmas Eve for a festive dinner and gift exchange, while the other parent enjoys Christmas morning festivities.

Coordinate Gift-Giving:

Coordinate with your co-parent regarding gift-giving to avoid duplication and ensure a balanced experience for the children. Share wish lists and discuss any major gifts to ensure consistency between households.

Stay Flexible:

Flexibility is key during the holidays. Unforeseen events or changes in plans may arise. Be prepared to adapt to unexpected circumstances and, if necessary, make adjustments to the co-parenting schedule with the best interests of the children in mind.

Co-Parenting Without Children on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day


If you find yourself without the children on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, prioritize self-care. Use this time to recharge, engage in activities you enjoy, and connect with friends and family. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically benefits both you and your children in the long run.

Plan Festivities:

Create your own holiday traditions and festivities when the children are with the other parent. This can include celebrating with friends, attending holiday events, or even taking a short trip. Having plans in place helps alleviate any feelings of loneliness or isolation during this time.

Stay Connected:

Embrace technology to stay connected with your children during the holidays. Schedule video calls or send thoughtful messages to let them know you're thinking of them. Maintaining a connection, even from a distance, reinforces your ongoing commitment to their well-being.

Co-Parenting During Hanukkah and Other Religious Holidays

In addition to navigating Christmas, co-parents may also face the challenge of co-parenting during Hanukkah or other religious holidays celebrated in December. Just as with Christmas, open communication is key when addressing the specific traditions and customs associated with these holidays. Begin by discussing the significance of Hanukkah or any other religious observance important to your family. Establishing a clear co-parenting plan that accommodates these traditions will help ensure a seamless and meaningful experience for everyone involved.

Hanukkah Co-Parenting Tips:

Coordinate Candle Lighting:

Hanukkah, or the Festival of Lights, involves the lighting of the menorah each evening. Coordinate with your co-parent to share this tradition, allowing each household to participate in the candle lighting. This can be done by alternating nights or finding a schedule that works for both parents.

Share Special Meals:

Like other holidays, Hanukkah often involves special meals and traditional foods. Discuss how you can share these culinary traditions between households, ensuring that the children can enjoy the festive meals associated with the holiday.

Gift-Giving Harmony:

The coordination on gift-giving is crucial during Hanukkah. Discuss the types of gifts you plan to give, share wish lists, and ensure there is no overlap or confusion in the presents provided by each parent.

Acknowledging Other Religious Observances

If your family celebrates other religious holidays in December, such as Kwanzaa or Diwali, similar principles apply. Open communication is vital in understanding the significance of these holidays and planning a co-parenting schedule that accommodates the associated customs and traditions.

Incorporating the unique aspects of different religious celebrations into your co-parenting plan fosters an environment where children can appreciate and respect diverse cultural practices. As a divorce attorney, I emphasize the importance of sensitivity and flexibility in accommodating religious observances, allowing both parents and children to embrace and enjoy the richness of their cultural heritage during the holiday season. By prioritizing these considerations, co-parents can create a harmonious and inclusive environment for their children, fostering a sense of belonging and connection to their cultural roots.


Co-parenting through December and the various faith-based holidays requires careful planning and consideration. As a divorce attorney, I encourage you to approach the holiday season with a cooperative mindset, keeping the best interests of your children at the forefront. Open communication, a well-structured co-parenting plan, and flexibility are crucial elements for a successful holiday experience.

Remember that co-parenting during the holidays is an evolving process. It may take time to find a routine that works for everyone involved. By prioritizing the well-being of your children and maintaining a positive and cooperative relationship with your co-parent, you can create a holiday season filled with love, joy, and shared memories.

Seeking Guidance for a Smooth Co-Parenting Journey? Contact Our Firm Today!

Navigating the complexities of co-parenting during the holiday season requires careful planning and legal expertise. If you find yourself in need of guidance, our experienced team at Birt Family Law is here to help. Whether you're seeking mediation services to establish a comprehensive co-parenting plan or require legal assistance in resolving any disputes, our compassionate and skilled team members are ready to support you. Our commitment is to ensure that your children experience a joyful and fulfilling holiday season, regardless of the challenges that co-parenting may present. Contact us today to schedule a consultation and take the first step towards a harmonious co-parenting journey through December and beyond.

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Since 2003, Erin N. Birt, J.D., CADC has focused her practice on parenting time, divorce, mediation, and substance abuse issues. Ms. Birt's unique background in both family law and addictions counseling help her clients successfully navigate the complex issues of coparenting and divorce. Ms. Birt also devotes her time to presenting at continuing education seminars for attorneys, mediators, and counselors.


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