The Power of Apologizing to Our Children


The Power of Apologizing to Our Children

In this enlightening episode of Restorative Divorce, we explore a topic close to every parent's heart: the power of apologizing to our children during divorce and coparenting. Join us as we delve into practical strategies and heartfelt insights to help young parents navigating dual incomes find clarity and connection in their coparenting journey.

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[00:02] Erin Birt: Welcome to Restorative Divorce, the podcast that's here to guide you through the challenging journey of divorce and co parenting with clarity, compassion, and empowerment. I'm your host, Erin Birt, and I'm thrilled to be your companion on this transformative path. Divorce can be one of the most emotionally and logistically complex experiences in life. But here at restorative divorce, we believe in a different approach, one that prioritizes healing, understanding, and cooperation over conflict and contention. Throughout each episode, we'll dive deep into all things divorce and co parenting related, offering you invaluable insights, practical strategies, and expert advice to help you navigate this terrain with confidence. From communication tips to legal guidance, and from coping mechanisms to co parenting strategies, we've got you covered. So whether you're just beginning to contemplate divorce in the middle of the process or navigating life post divorce, you're in the right place.

[01:09] Erin Birt: Welcome to Restorative divorce. As you just heard, this is a Podcast where we explore all things divorce and co parenting to help parents find clarity, stay informed, and stay out of family court. I'm your host, Erin Birt, and in today's episode, we're going to delve into a topic that's often overlooked but incredibly important, the power of apologizing to our children.

Divorce can be a tumultuous time for families, and it's natural for tensions to run high. But even in the middle of chaos, it's crucial that we remember the impact our actions and words have on our children. Apologizing to them can be a powerful tool for healing and rebuilding trust. So lets dive into three key takeaways about why and how apologizing to our children is so important.

Takeaway one modeling accountability and responsibility.

One of the most important reasons to apologize to our children is to model accountability and responsibility. By acknowledging our mistakes and taking ownership of our actions, we show our kids that its okay to make mistakes, but more importantly, that it's important to take responsibility for them. This sets a powerful example for them to follow in their own lives, fostering a sense of integrity and honesty.

Takeaway two repairing trust and strengthening relationships.

Apologizing to our children is not just about admitting fault, it's also about repairing trust and strengthening our relationships with them. When we apologize sincerely, we show our children that we value their feelings and that we're committed to making things right. This can go a long way in rebuilding trust and deepening our bond with them, even in the midst of challenging times.

Takeaway three fostering emotional resilience and growth.

Lastly, apologizing to our children is essential for fostering emotional resilience and growth. By acknowledging and validating their feelings, we help them develop a healthy sense of self worth and emotional intelligence. Apologizing teaches them that it's okay to express their emotions and that conflicts can be resolved through open communication and empathy. This equips them with the skills they need to navigate future challenges with grace and resilience. So let's put this all together with a language sample that you can use. So here's an example of a genuine apology from a parent to a child I wanted to talk to you about something important earlier today.

[03:48] Erin Birt: I realize I raised my voice when we were discussing your homework, and I know that wasn't the right way to handle things. I want you to know that I'm truly sorry for reacting that way. It wasn't fair to you and it wasn't the example I want to set. I want you to understand that I value your feelings and your perspective. You deserve to be heard and respected. Even when we disagree. I'm committed to doing better, to listening more, and to finding constructive ways to work through our differences. I hope you can forgive me and I want you to know that I'm here for you no matter what. Let's find a better way to communicate and support each other going forward.

So as a parent, you can say this, you can write this, you can save this language sample for a time when maybe things get overwhelming, and we say things that we didn't want to say in the heat of the moment.

In conclusion, apologizing to our children is not a sign of weakness. It's a sign of strength and compassion. Its an essential tool for modeling accountability, repairing trust and fostering emotional resilience. So as we navigate the ups and downs of divorce and co parenting, lets remember the power of a heartfelt apology and the profound impact it can have on our childrens lives. Thank you for tuning into this episode. Remember to subscribe for more insights and strategies to help you on your divorce or co parenting journey. Until next time, take care and stay empowered.

[05:36] Erin Birt: And that's a wrap for today's episode of restorative Divorce. We hope you found the insights shared here valuable and empowering. Remember, divorce and co parenting may present challenges, but they also offer opportunities for personal growth and positive change. By embracing a positive approach, we can transform conflict into cooperation and pain into healing. If you have any questions, comments or topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes, don't hesitate to reach out. Your feedback is invaluable to us. Until next time remember to prioritize self care, nurture your relationships, and approach every challenge with courage and compassion. Thank you for tuning in to restorative divorce. Take care and we'll catch you on the next episode.

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